I’m tired of hearing and seeing the debate between Christians and the gay community over our chicken sandwiches. Anyone else?
So why one more post about the Chick-fil-A hoopla?
I think there’s something conservative Christians (myself included) need to hear.
I often worry Christians are more vocal, thus the message heard most often, are conversations revolving around the sanctity of marriage, homosexual rights, abortion, conservative politics and/or religion in politics, when there is a much greater and more eternal message.
Why are Christians more apt to engage in public culture wars, than speak about the work God has done in their own lives? Which is of greater value and importance?
But, truly, how does buying a chicken sandwich reinforce the sanctity of marriage?
How does the transaction of dollars and chicken (or waffle fries) prove an example of a husband loving his wife with the same vigor and commitment that Christ loves the church?
Wouldn’t it be more powerful for husbands and wives to love their spouse fully—to be respectful, kind, self-sacrificing, joyful, and committed—instead of taking to Chick-fil-A to show their support of traditional marriage?
Often it seems the sanctity of marriage argument is a convenient soapbox for Christians instead of an actual belief. It’s hard to look at statistics that say the rate of divorce, adultery, and pornography in the Church is comparable to secular society and accept the “marriage is a sacred institution of God” argument.
Marriage is sacred. But actions speak louder than words.
If you’re neglecting your wife, berating her in public and private,
If you’re completely comfortable yelling at your husband, no matter the audience,
If you’re lusting after other men (or women), whether married or not,
If you’re reluctant to actively support and encourage friends who are struggling in their own marriage,
If you take your anger to bed,
If you’re committed only as long as you’re happy,
If you think to be a husband is to demand servitude,
If you’re unwilling to work through the hard parts of communication and reconciliation,
—then do you truly believe marriage is sacred and holy?
Now I’ve heard this, “But homosexuality is gross and unnatural.”
But aren’t your sins gross and unnatural?
And what is it that leads us to repentance? Is it shame? Public humiliation? Defamation and name-calling? Mockery? Boycotts? Ostracization?
Or is it the kindness of the Lord that leads to repentance?
What speaks more of the Kingdom of God?
A chicken sandwich or a life reflecting Grace?